tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post4295024101409188155..comments2024-03-07T05:17:50.699-05:00Comments on Awful But Functioning: EvolutionTashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-77665248929665418852008-01-07T09:19:00.000-05:002008-01-07T09:19:00.000-05:00The bracelet is lovely. I don't think it is unhea...The bracelet is lovely. I don't think it is unhealthy. But as your therapist said, perhaps someday you will chose not to wear it daily. Or maybe someday you will make another one, one that is not so obvious, perhaps a more delicate, subtle reminder.<BR/><BR/>Beautiful.Waiting Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07487061896648183375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-86968895990538199302008-01-05T20:39:00.000-05:002008-01-05T20:39:00.000-05:00It's hard to balance remembering with forgetting. ...It's hard to balance remembering with forgetting. Because, of course, you can't forget. But sometimes you might want something tangible to remind you. And the bracelet is beautiful.<BR/><BR/>I saw a Wonder Woman lunchbox for sale at a secondhand store today. I guess I should have bought it for you.<BR/><BR/>If you hadn't mentioned that the off-center effect was unintentional, I would have complimented you on your evocative framing. Oh, well.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08315267454529454063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-37916155089252107392008-01-03T23:30:00.000-05:002008-01-03T23:30:00.000-05:00the bracelet is breathtaking. i've got a ring with...the bracelet is breathtaking. i've got a ring with my birthstone and my daughter's birthstone. it's simple and beautiful and i haven't taken it off in almost three years. when i thought i'd be having a c-section with my living daughter, my doc said he would tape it down so i could still wear it. i ended up delivering vaginally, so it didn't matter.<BR/>here's to hoping you don't end up looking like wonder woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-41435925575739304132008-01-03T20:52:00.000-05:002008-01-03T20:52:00.000-05:00I love the bracelet, i think it is beautiful.I love the bracelet, i think it is beautiful.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-88025157788698392752008-01-03T13:10:00.000-05:002008-01-03T13:10:00.000-05:00It's so, so beautiful Tash.And you're kinda Wonder...It's so, so beautiful Tash.<BR/>And you're kinda Wonder Woman to me, anyway.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02222598464601154747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-26250006658956133212008-01-03T12:38:00.000-05:002008-01-03T12:38:00.000-05:00oh god, tash. i'm so moved, in so many ways. your ...oh god, tash. i'm so moved, in so many ways. your bracelet is lovely, and it is so perfect that you designed it yourself. wonderful, wonderful.<BR/><BR/>after earl died my good friend gave me a children's ring with her birthstone in it. it only fit half-way down my smallest finger, but i wore it there every day for months. without it i felt naked. when i finally took it off it went in her memorial box, and i would occasionally take it out, put it on, and ponder.<BR/><BR/>after ruby died i found a necklace made of rubies and sapphires (her birthstone). i bought it and immediately put earl's ring on it as well. in aesthetic terms it was terrible, but in mama terms it was perfect. it's been 3 months plus and i have not been able to take the necklace off.<BR/><BR/>you have nothing to let go. not now. not until you're ready. you should be carrying your baby in your arms. it makes so much sense that you carry her memorial there instead.<BR/><BR/>i am so touched by your strength, tash. you're amazing.<BR/><BR/>--caroleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-26899212836287994232008-01-03T10:39:00.000-05:002008-01-03T10:39:00.000-05:00i love it.and the whole let it go thing...if, in t...i love it.<BR/><BR/>and the whole let it go thing...if, in time, you want to, you can put it in a keepsake box. but for now, for this time, like you say...this is where you are. and it is a little like being handcuffed...anyone who criticizes the bracelet's symbolism probably has never walked your path. it doesn't chain Maddy to you, either...or keep her from being wherever she is, alas. it just offers you the comfort of connection. and if that's a good thing, then it's good.Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403701620708365171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-24687901030721813832008-01-03T10:19:00.000-05:002008-01-03T10:19:00.000-05:00I love your bracelet. I have a charm bracelet I ha...I love your bracelet. I have a charm bracelet I had made after Jacob died. For now I wear it everyday, it helps in a small way. I don't know why. <BR/><BR/>I think you should just go with how you feel. If wearing the bracelet is what you want to do, do it. You're not hurting anyone or yourself so who cares what everyone else thinks. There may come a time when you don't want to wear it. I've given up worrying about whether people think I should let it go or get over it. I'm never going to get over it so why not wear my bracelet, it in itself doesn't remind me of what happened. I can't ever forget what happened. <BR/>Like charmedgirl I'm getting a tattoo done. I can't wait to see what people think about that one.Coggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07435179051565255934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-13294171692527538362008-01-03T10:09:00.000-05:002008-01-03T10:09:00.000-05:00I love this. What a great idea!I struggle a lot w...I love this. What a great idea!<BR/><BR/>I struggle a lot with this kind of thing. I can't seem to do anything, at all. But when I read of bracelets (and see how beautiful they are)...I think I should *try* to do something. It might help. <BR/><BR/>I know we all have to find our own way to remember our babies. I think doing something no matter how big or small is a good thing. I don't know what I'm going to do yet, but I WILL do something in 2008.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing these photos with us.meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113578396438869433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-33574084695970996312008-01-03T09:24:00.000-05:002008-01-03T09:24:00.000-05:00I think it's beautiful and you are amazing. I lik...I think it's beautiful and you are amazing. I like the pictures off-center. They make Maddy's bracelets look even more artistic and graceful, all of them.Searchinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03112896236818363817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-28616115408016493142008-01-03T05:42:00.000-05:002008-01-03T05:42:00.000-05:00I think that's a lovely idea and a great object to...I think that's a lovely idea and a great object to remind you in years to come.<BR/><BR/>I guess looking like wonder woman is no bad thing....<BR/><BR/>xsamillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13337589389702800344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-84610247328490206202008-01-02T19:07:00.000-05:002008-01-02T19:07:00.000-05:00It's really beautiful, Tash.It's really beautiful, Tash.ShastaFizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09362183654798035831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-66295251343992545452008-01-02T19:00:00.000-05:002008-01-02T19:00:00.000-05:00Beautiful, just beautiful. And it is indeed a refl...Beautiful, just beautiful. And it is indeed a reflection of where you're at now. You don't know where you'll be in the future, but you'll have this beautiful piece of jewelry to connect you to Maddy nonetheless. I like the idea of it evolving as time goes on. xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-45218845125126944002008-01-02T18:53:00.000-05:002008-01-02T18:53:00.000-05:00i love the bracelet. i also got a flowery, yet st...i love the bracelet. i also got a flowery, yet strong reminder of my paige. a HUGE tattoo on my arm. YUP, and no matter where i "am" years from now, i will still carry it, just like i do this whole experience. i called it a gravestone to my therapist, but really, it is so much more than that. it's about me, too.<BR/><BR/>i love the bracelet, and i love the WW line of thinking. let it go...how can you let yourself go? these babies have changed us forever and our custom jewelry and tattoos (in my mind) is very much about our resurfaced selves. we have had to integrate devastation into our beings forever, and we wear our badges with...pride? love? acceptance? peace? look, i'm still figuring it out too. but i stand by it; hey this tat isn't going anywhere.<BR/><BR/>this is ALL permanent.charmedgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12317107200577724625noreply@blogger.com