tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post1793911930456466736..comments2024-03-07T05:17:50.699-05:00Comments on Awful But Functioning: Mourning in PlayTashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-44164998908702036602008-06-29T13:29:00.000-04:002008-06-29T13:29:00.000-04:00I'm with Coggy...I heard this news from arriving i...I'm with Coggy...I heard this news from arriving in Europe and my first reaction to Mimmo was "How could he play?,"...then when I saw that they wore the black armbands, I too was touched...it was such a supportive gesture and yes, a wonderful tribute and recognition of his baby daughter(anonymous, trust me, not all europeans acknowledge baby deaths nor can they talk about them).<BR/><BR/>Also, 'cause I'm following Coggy here, FORZA ESPANA stasera!!!Angelisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07528660707208772279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-87769428356134489322008-06-29T05:08:00.000-04:002008-06-29T05:08:00.000-04:00I was in mixed minds as to what I would have felt ...I was in mixed minds as to what I would have felt if my husband had decided to stay on and play after losing our daughter. I kept wondering if that is what I would have wanted. In the end though I think it was a wonderful tribute by the dutch team. I was a little saddened that the commentators didn't seem to acknowledge it on our commentary. It seems people are frightened of mentioning such sad things as babies dying. <BR/><BR/>On a footballing note, I wished the dutch had played football like their earlier matches. I really wanted them to go through. Anyhow, I will be rooting for Spain today.Coggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07435179051565255934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-4023839083335403182008-06-27T17:38:00.000-04:002008-06-27T17:38:00.000-04:00I'm 'glad' that it's not just glossed over anymore...I'm 'glad' that it's not just glossed over anymore. His daughter deserves the recognition that public mourning provides, and his family, too. When my son died, I wished that there was some outward sign of mourning that I could wear so that people would know without me having to tell them. I wish that more people were as understanding and supportive as this guy's teammates are.mattina di lunedihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01345233551909989610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-88214558937078527512008-06-27T07:32:00.000-04:002008-06-27T07:32:00.000-04:00I am sorry this has to surprise us, this evidence ...I am sorry this has to surprise us, this evidence that people care and notice. And I had no idea of the extent of Demarcus Deware's losses. Wow. I am so sad for all of us.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03887313952590843057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-27914820993567199432008-06-26T09:35:00.000-04:002008-06-26T09:35:00.000-04:00Thank you so much for your comments on my blog and...Thank you so much for your comments on my blog and for sharing that story. So sad and yet so inpiring at the same time. <BR/><BR/>I love the analogy you made to how unlikely it would be for coworkers in a more "normal" work setting to do something like that for a colleague who had experienced the loss of a child or loved one. <BR/><BR/>My husband is a very private person, so I don't know what he would have thought if his coworkers wore armbands in honor of our daughter Molly the day he returned to the office after she died. However, I would have thought it was very nice.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, my heart goes out to him and his family and I applaud his team for showing their care and support pubically. As others have commented, it would be nice if others in the public eye, especially professional sports, would follow their lead in the future.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04175833982955486083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-34346519103267812022008-06-25T20:49:00.000-04:002008-06-25T20:49:00.000-04:00I like what you say here. My husband watched the g...I like what you say here. My husband watched the game at our house too, and pointed this out to me, and I went through a similar sequence of thoughts and emotions. <BR/><BR/>I hope he got a chance to kick the hell out of that ball.mekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17917552705258680396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-83881195414535234522008-06-25T09:12:00.000-04:002008-06-25T09:12:00.000-04:00Wow - what a story. Can't believe I totally misse...Wow - what a story. Can't believe I totally missed this. Thanks for posting.<BR/><BR/>Sucks the dutch are out though.samillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13337589389702800344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-26603855512895174922008-06-25T08:47:00.000-04:002008-06-25T08:47:00.000-04:00oh that is awful too, but like you said how wonder...oh that is awful too, but like you said how wonderful his 'collegues' were right there with him. <BR/>thank youHoneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15662439151558495496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-18849396549199780032008-06-24T21:37:00.000-04:002008-06-24T21:37:00.000-04:00Class indeed. So so heartbreaking.hurts my heart....Class indeed. So so heartbreaking.<BR/><BR/>hurts my heart.iheartchocolatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06506809401305000430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-71571353014582418172008-06-24T15:37:00.000-04:002008-06-24T15:37:00.000-04:00I only saw the last part of the game, although I d...I only saw the last part of the game, although I do have it on TiVo and plan on watching it sometime this week. <BR/>It must be so hard for them to be away from families, and doctors, and in front of the whole world. I am so glad his team was there for him, though. People making like A didn't exist/wasn't worth mentioning drove me nuts. I am glad they don't have to wonder.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-71634907922614623492008-06-24T15:27:00.000-04:002008-06-24T15:27:00.000-04:00oh drats, this made me cry!I think there was this ...oh drats, this made me cry!<BR/>I think there was this story in "Swallowed by a Snake" about this father, who after he wins every game, whispers as he walks off the game, "Another score for you, baby.", to his deceased daughter.janishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326099151319592743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-2291013144084285792008-06-24T12:33:00.000-04:002008-06-24T12:33:00.000-04:00I wanted the whole world to wear mourning for my d...I wanted the whole world to wear mourning for my daughter. Instead no-one said anything much at all - not even people in her family! I'll never forgive the world for the fact that they didn't think she mattered. So I'm really sorry for that guy but I'm glad that his loss was mourned in public. Thanks for the post.<BR/><BR/>AliceAlicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02472729169216109749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-24350347975402123972008-06-23T10:08:00.000-04:002008-06-23T10:08:00.000-04:00i had heard of the boularhouz's baby's death a few...i had heard of the boularhouz's baby's death a few days ago, and heard that he wasn't going to play. then i saw him out there, and was equally floored -- i'm not sure i was able to walk two days after ruby died, much less kick a ball. i told carole the story, and about the armbands, and she said, "of course -- they're european." which i took to mean, they can talk about and share grief over such things, unlike the weird nation we live in.<BR/><BR/>i was rooting for the dutch before, and really wanted them to win after that. oh well -- russia outplayed them.<BR/><BR/>--shannonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-41944183652258168952008-06-23T09:40:00.000-04:002008-06-23T09:40:00.000-04:00Ditto what debbie said about Marcus Deware. The NY...Ditto what debbie said about Marcus Deware. The NY Times had a story about it.<BR/><BR/>And no the NFL did nothing about it. Kudos to soccer for having such class.Aureliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-25993612409516341202008-06-22T18:36:00.000-04:002008-06-22T18:36:00.000-04:00under my rock, i would never have heard of this. ...under my rock, i would never have heard of this. and i am so moved by the idea.<BR/><BR/>when i was a kid, a boy in my class - whose ancestry was Taiwanese, he was the only Asian kid in my grade here in whitebreadland - came to school with a black armband because his grandfather died. and i thought, oh how silly. how weird, to have that forced on you.<BR/><BR/>now, i think otherwise. and i wish we had some similar tradition.Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403701620708365171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-27349253838340019552008-06-22T16:54:00.000-04:002008-06-22T16:54:00.000-04:00Wow, thanks for sharing that. What a lovely gestur...Wow, thanks for sharing that. What a lovely gesture for his teammates to make.loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-55943817761106527712008-06-22T09:32:00.000-04:002008-06-22T09:32:00.000-04:00I am amazed that he was able to play given the cir...I am amazed that he was able to play given the circumstance. What a show of support from his team.JW Moxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16865232770753428076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-49747690401065070132008-06-22T05:14:00.000-04:002008-06-22T05:14:00.000-04:00And thus another reason for me to adore you is bor...And thus another reason for me to adore you is born - you watch and enjoy football!<BR/><BR/>I read about this the other day, but I wasn't able to watch the match last night so I didn't know about the armbands. Generally speaking European teams tend to support their team members when a personal tragedy occurs. I think that's a wonderful, moving gesture.MsPrufrockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06533722219016814501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-43890499320836890292008-06-22T00:15:00.000-04:002008-06-22T00:15:00.000-04:00gotta love the dutch. thanks for posting about th...gotta love the dutch. thanks for posting about this. too bad the rest of the US wasn't glued to their TVs as in other parts of the world.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-40672202695172836842008-06-21T23:56:00.000-04:002008-06-21T23:56:00.000-04:00we watched this game today, but didn't tune in unt...we watched this game today, but didn't tune in until the end. I never even noticed the black arm bands. glad you did. what a nice gesture--and from men . . . I recently had a link on my blog about Demarcus Ware, an NFL football player who lost not one, but three babies (one miscarriage, one baby failed to develop kidneys,and one's heart stopped beating). The last baby died during the playoffs. I don't know what his teammates did for him in private, but there definitely wasn't a public display, at least not that I saw. Maybe others could take the lead from this amazingly thoughtful gesture.debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15838702962691821252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-58471725948445743822008-06-21T23:54:00.000-04:002008-06-21T23:54:00.000-04:00My husband and I watched this game today and were ...My husband and I watched this game today and were in awe. We couldn't believe he was out there on the field, but we were so happy his teammates wore the armband to honor his daughter. I am glad you posted about it, I doubt many people in the US even know anything about it. I wish he and his wife didn't have to know this pain either.CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-74059620250732775122008-06-21T23:37:00.000-04:002008-06-21T23:37:00.000-04:00I can't imagine going through that in public. But ...I can't imagine going through that in public. But kudos to the whole team we need more people in the world to be supportive and understanding like that.Azaerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00778026696324592463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-30326530937908057682008-06-21T22:04:00.000-04:002008-06-21T22:04:00.000-04:00wow.wow.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-20446610943722169792008-06-21T21:51:00.000-04:002008-06-21T21:51:00.000-04:00OMG. That's beautiful. Just beautiful. And so sad....OMG. That's beautiful. Just beautiful. And so sad.c.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02933776400434137451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8937223408953728341.post-35181938388777005592008-06-21T21:48:00.000-04:002008-06-21T21:48:00.000-04:00Wow. Just wow.Wow. Just wow.G$https://www.blogger.com/profile/05010373805685335151noreply@blogger.com